Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Clarification
My sister pointed that I AM a homemaker, but it just doesn't always look like someone else's experience of being a wife. I think Caleb just meant, I am not a full-time-stay-at-home-homemaker :)
Saturday, January 8, 2011
1 year later
Caleb and I will celebrate our 1st Wedding anniversary in a few weeks - crazy! We have had a full year of growing, changing, work, vacation, etc.
Things we did this year include:
- Cancun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- charleston
- Williamsburg
- time at the lakehome with Caleb's family
- bought a road bike for me
- caleb held his youngest baby yet (baby Joe in the Hospital)
- We visited Ben and Ama in Texas and Caleb changed his first diaper ever (he was supervised!)
- Went to Wicked
- Worked A LOT, learning to deal with our work schedules
- learned a little about plumbing and electricity
- argued about, built together, and maintained a garden
- Caleb put a small retaining wall in
- painted the kitchen
- finally bought new living room furniture
- hosted many social events
- small group
- involved with a small group re-building committee
- watched Caleb's fantasy football team score the most points but also have the most points scored against him (did I mention he told me that about 100 times)
- First Valentine's, thanksgiving, Christmas and New years together - oh those holidays and the juggling of time and expectations!!!!!
- celebrated by 30th with friends and family at Buca's and Caleb's 29th at the Gopher basketball game
- played on a broomball team
- spin class on Tuesdays together
- went from the Young adults to a Young Married group as of last week
- learned/learning/floundering at times with how to deal with conflict
- attended Holy Spirit conference in August
- went on lots of dates to restaurants caleb likes
- taught Caleb to sleep in a little
- set our budget, working on budget, updating on Quicken
So, it's been A LOT. We are very blessed. I think for me it has been a year of "doing" as a wife. On top of working/commuting 50 hours a week, I was working on cooking, cleaning, shopping, grocery shopping, meal planning, laundry, errand running, social calendar juggling, supporting caleb in his endevours, decorating, etc. I sort of hit a tired wall this Christmas season, at least by the end of it. I really love being at home and doing the "homemaker" thing. I really really do. But there is just not enough time to do work and home to the degree I would like to. Caleb always says, "Kristie, I know you want to do all these things like cook, crafty things, etc, but you work. You're not a homemaker." That has been really hard to accept and allow him to release me from things. I feel this compelling urge to get things done (Hello, Martha), but my heart's desire is to slow down. To rest a little, to be wiser with my time and energy. I need and desire to put more time into my relationship with Jesus, instead of the moments I throw at Him. You may have heard the quote, "too busy NOT to pray". It's one I believe in theory, but have a hard time living out. But, in all the doing of being a wife and a PA, a sister/daugher/auntie, a small group member, a church volunteer, and try to stay fit, I think the being part of me needs some more attention.
This year I would like to work on things like being more trusting in Jesus and less anxious. More patient and less worrisome. More joyful and less complaining. More prayerful for Caleb and less critical. I would like to be a better communicator with him also. I would like to work on building the walls of my spiritual house. I would like for us to work on becoming the "one" that God has in mind for us, and trust that although I can't always understand the means of that, I can trust His sovereignty get us to the perfect end by the perfect means.
Things we did this year include:
- Cancun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- charleston
- Williamsburg
- time at the lakehome with Caleb's family
- bought a road bike for me
- caleb held his youngest baby yet (baby Joe in the Hospital)
- We visited Ben and Ama in Texas and Caleb changed his first diaper ever (he was supervised!)
- Went to Wicked
- Worked A LOT, learning to deal with our work schedules
- learned a little about plumbing and electricity
- argued about, built together, and maintained a garden
- Caleb put a small retaining wall in
- painted the kitchen
- finally bought new living room furniture
- hosted many social events
- small group
- involved with a small group re-building committee
- watched Caleb's fantasy football team score the most points but also have the most points scored against him (did I mention he told me that about 100 times)
- First Valentine's, thanksgiving, Christmas and New years together - oh those holidays and the juggling of time and expectations!!!!!
- celebrated by 30th with friends and family at Buca's and Caleb's 29th at the Gopher basketball game
- played on a broomball team
- spin class on Tuesdays together
- went from the Young adults to a Young Married group as of last week
- learned/learning/floundering at times with how to deal with conflict
- attended Holy Spirit conference in August
- went on lots of dates to restaurants caleb likes
- taught Caleb to sleep in a little
- set our budget, working on budget, updating on Quicken
So, it's been A LOT. We are very blessed. I think for me it has been a year of "doing" as a wife. On top of working/commuting 50 hours a week, I was working on cooking, cleaning, shopping, grocery shopping, meal planning, laundry, errand running, social calendar juggling, supporting caleb in his endevours, decorating, etc. I sort of hit a tired wall this Christmas season, at least by the end of it. I really love being at home and doing the "homemaker" thing. I really really do. But there is just not enough time to do work and home to the degree I would like to. Caleb always says, "Kristie, I know you want to do all these things like cook, crafty things, etc, but you work. You're not a homemaker." That has been really hard to accept and allow him to release me from things. I feel this compelling urge to get things done (Hello, Martha), but my heart's desire is to slow down. To rest a little, to be wiser with my time and energy. I need and desire to put more time into my relationship with Jesus, instead of the moments I throw at Him. You may have heard the quote, "too busy NOT to pray". It's one I believe in theory, but have a hard time living out. But, in all the doing of being a wife and a PA, a sister/daugher/auntie, a small group member, a church volunteer, and try to stay fit, I think the being part of me needs some more attention.
This year I would like to work on things like being more trusting in Jesus and less anxious. More patient and less worrisome. More joyful and less complaining. More prayerful for Caleb and less critical. I would like to be a better communicator with him also. I would like to work on building the walls of my spiritual house. I would like for us to work on becoming the "one" that God has in mind for us, and trust that although I can't always understand the means of that, I can trust His sovereignty get us to the perfect end by the perfect means.
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